QUESTION:
What are some practical ways to deal with emotional abuse?
ANSWER:
My initial response would be to GET OUT! Leave. For some, that may be easier said than done (I would do everything I could to remove myself from a potentially volatile situation. Abuse can get worse when you decide to stay).
There is never a reason to emotionally or physically abuse anyone. Though I am fully aware that a lot of people (typically women) decide to stay, thinking that the abuse will pass (“He just had a bad day”). Or thinking they will be able to change their partner into a better person (cough, cough. fat chance). Both are very naïve responses to any type of abuse. The first person you should be thinking of is you. Protecting yourself and your children (if you have any) is your priority. The further you can pull yourself away from an abusive situation, the more clearly, you’ll be able to think (and then react accordingly). Whatever you do, don’t go back until your partner gets professional help (counseling or therapy of some kind). Telling you they are “sorry” and will never do it again, should not suffice. When it comes to changing behavior, actions speak much louder than words. Don’t entertain any type of reconciliation until you see an actual change in behavior. And that could take some time. So be patient. Habits are hard to break. So is bad character. Wait it out. You (and your wellbeing) will be thankful you did!
